Tis the Season

Hellooo👋, Happy Holidays to everyone. Of course, today was Thanksgiving; a celebration & time when family and friends all come together. This is a day of recognition & giving thanks over a large feast.


Now I’m not 100% sure about all of the things that transpired leading up to this well known holiday, and I’m not going to sit up here and act like I do. What I do know is that it involved Native Americans & Europeans, and whatever they taught us in school is only what they wanted us to know. I also know that it is recognized as a national holiday & the concept has been passed down from generation to generation.

Don’t get me wrong because I do enjoy this special day–but why do we have to wait until the 4th Thursday of every November to give thanks & show love. That’s a really long time. I’m not saying that you should cook over the top (special/large) meals & invite everyone over every day but it shouldn’t take a whole year & national holiday for this to occur.

After today’s dinner I decided to just lay around & watch a couple of movies. My youngest daughter wanted to watch one of her favorite movies, “Daddy’s Little Girls” by Tyler Perry, and I decided to watch one of my old time favorites, “Soul Food” by George Tillman Jr.

As I was watching the movie “Soul Food,” I began reminiscing about back in the day when I was a young girl. My family on my mother’s/grandmother’s side used to always gather on Sundays after church @ my great-grand- mother’s, Ma Mary (pronounced Ma Mur) for food & fellowship. They also gathered together @ other random times for family fun & love ❤. We were a very close knitted family. As time went on, and years passed by & with the loss of certain loved ones the family started coming together less often unless there’s a death in the family.

The point that I’m making is, we should give recognition & thanks daily. We should not have to wait for special holidays or lost of loved ones to come together. I’m not saying that you have to gather & congregate daily or weekly, but do it often. And aside from that you should communicate and let loved ones know how much you care & appreciate them and whatever role they play in your life. Be grateful & give thanks for your own life daily, and communicate it to your immediate family living in your home.

You’ll never know when it’ll be the last time you see or speak to someone. So, in order to prevent guilt or regrets in life-communicate & share your love and/or appreciation with those who have a great impact or influence in/on your life. Enjoy your holidays & be safe. Until next time, remember to be thankful.



P.s- When I first began working on my post it was late Thanksgiving night. But of course it is now Friday the day after, which is also known as Black Friday. Again, have a Happy Holidays….




Hello 👋 Influence of Change subscribers & viewers. First, I want to apologize for missing last week’s blog sessions. I was involved in a small car 🚗 crash. Nothing fatal though, thank God I’m alive to share with you all my experience.

But, before I do that; I just want to say that I’m thankful & grateful to be here to interact & communicate with you all. We have entered into a new month November, I’m looking forward to my youngest daughter’s 15th BIRTHDAY and Thanksgiving.

For those of you who may not be aware last month, October, was Domestic Violence Awareness month. I would like to send my condolences to all family & friends who may have lost a loved one ❤ to Domestic Violence.

For those of us who have endured such traumatic & life changing experiences & Survived; Just know that it wasn’t all for nothing. A Living, Walking Testimony. @ Influence of Change my agenda is to help inform & bring awareness. Influence others through my way of life & experiences to add value, wisdom, patience, understanding, love & forgiveness, humility, integrity, grace & virtue, happiness, & self-love. Alongside of anything else that may be included in the ingredients for Living Prosperous. With me saying all of that; let those who have gained wisdom & knowledge through different areas & experiences in life be of an ifluence to those who may lack some of the wisdom & knowledge that you have gained as they adventure through different areas of their life; but in a very postive & inspiring way.

Ok, so now that I have addressed those issues; I’m now going to explain what happened the night 🌙 my car 🚗 was crashed/smashed. Well, I was on my way home from earning extra income-(I will share that with you @ a different time). So, I decided to stop & get myself a Mountain Dew, which is probably my favorite beverage @ most particular times. Now with all of this happening, of course it is all done in a matter of seconds.

My thoughts, ” Uhm, I am only 75 cents short from making my daily quota. But it’s ok & I did good, so I’m gonna go ahead & home get me some rest, so I can be rested for tomorrow’s journey…random thoughts….Oooo, I’m thirsty. I know I’m going to want to drink a little Dew before I close my eyes 👀 to sleep. Man, I really don’t feel like stopping. But if  you don’t get it now, when you lay down you are going to want it & there isn’t anything to drink @ home. Dag, I just passed a store. Good, I can stop @ this gas ⛽ station.”

Imagine driving through a parking lot & almost colliding with another moving vehicle. Drivers of each vehicle become aware of the possible threat of danger & immediately stop. Which ever driver has the best position to proceed without causing damages or harm should do so; after ensuring with the other driver that it is safe to go ahead using non-verbal communications – then when it’s safe & clear the next driver should proceed as well; Preventing all damages & mishaps.

Of course, we all know that’s not how it went down; that’s why I have a story to tell.


So, as I was carefully pulling into the gas station’s parking lot & checking my surroundings, I observed a parking space straight ahead of me.I decided that is were I would pull in to park.

Observations included: one parked car 🚗 ahead towards the left, two empty parking spaces straight ahead, one car @ gas ⛽ pump to right, several vehicles parked further to the right after devider, one large white van backing & pulling out of parking space on the further right side, and heading out on that side as well. As I began to pull into my parking space the car to the right of me at the gas pump began swiftly pulling away from pump turning left while looking right.

When I observed that there may be a possible collision about to take place, I immediately applied my breaks coming to a complete stop. The driver of the other vehicle (a male), looked me in my face & did not stop his car until he crashed it into mine. The impact was really hard causing me to scream & use profanity, “Aaaaaahhh SHIT!!!Damn.” Afterwards I was kind of scared to get out & see damages. After he backed his car 🚗 up off of my car 🚗 he got out.


It was really cold that night, & I was kind of scared to look. As I slowly got out of my car & eased around to the passenger’s side to see what damages were done; the only thing he had to say was a slow, “Uhh?”  So, I replied back with an attituded, “Uhh?”

He did not speak @ all- no ” I’m sorry, my bad, are you ok,” nothing. He looked at my damage, he tried to push the dents out with his hands. He then turned & looked @ his vehicle that only had a little bit of scraped paint, rubbed his hands across it & then went inside of his vehicle & passed me his insurance card-still never said a mumbling word.

It was extremely cold; so cold that my teeth chattered & my body shivered so hard that I could not take a clear 📷 photo of his insurance card. He then asked for my information, but I wasn’t willing to do so until I was finished getting his information, because it was so cold. I asked him to do it for me because I was shivering so bad & he did.

Finally, when the police arrived he asked what happened, license, & proof of insurance. We both provided him a brief overview of what occurred. The officer then verified license& proof of insurance. He provided us with a case # & then departed. Afterwards, I went in the store buy my nice cold Mountain Dew.


Once I got back in my car & settled down I felt a tingling sensation running down the side of my neck. I went home & when I woke up later that day I was in a lot of pain- my neck & upper back mainly on the right side of my body. I went to the ER & now I’m following up with the chiropractor & insurance company. I’ve missed several days out of work & lost my job assignment. This was my first incident of this nature, so I have to figure this out. So, hopefully it will not take this long to ever again to post my blogs & interact with the blogging community.


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